History of Rae Part I
Thirty three years ago, a squalling baby was born in Augusta, Maine. And the baby grew and became girl.*

I didn’t plan to post much about my history but Babsis very nicely requested more information about my connection to Germany. And, well, knowing a little bit more about my background will serve as a good foundation for some other posts I have planned.
I’ll start out with the surprise of my birth. Err, not that I unexpectedly popped out of my mom one day— Don’t laugh! That did sort of happen in my family at some point but it’s not my story to tell. No, see, my parents had their full with four girls ranging between 9 and 14 years old. As you can imagine, they weren’t sitting around twirling their thumbs and thinking, “You know what this house needs? Another kid!” Which is why they were surprised to find out that’s exactly what they were getting. The up side? After originally making a deal with my mom that she’d name the girls and he’d name the boys, he finally got to name one of his kids after his father.
I was born in Maine but between February 1977 and November 1979 we moved from Augusta to Corpus Christi, Texas to Joppatown, Maryland. Nothing like setting the stage for our nomadic lifestyle.
As for why we moved around so much… Wouldn’t it be cool if it’s because my parents were con artists and we had to pick up stakes any time the authorities got too close? Yeah. Unfortunately, my life is not the premise of a TV series. My dad was just a civilian working for the United States Army. Basically I’m an Army Brat without the Army part (and my sisters will totally support that statement). My family had lived overseas prior to my birth and my father loved it. No surprise, then, when he accepted a position within the Berlin Command at the end of 1979.
And thus began my time in Germany. Between the years 1979 and 1992, we lived:
- Berlin, Nov. 1979 to Aug. 1985
- Gießen, Aug. 1985 to Feb. 1987
- Bremerhaven, Feb. 1987 to June 1988
- Heidelberg, June 1988 to May 29, 1992
In a couple of cases, we actually lived in smaller towns outside those bigger cities and, while we living in the Heidelberg area, my dad was working in Mannheim. But generally speaking, that’s where we were located during those times. As you can see, we skipped our way around the country.
Except for the South but we made up for not living there by visiting often. My parents still had friends in Garmisch from when they had lived there in the ’70s and my dad is an avid skier. So winter vacations were spent skiing in Austria with stops in Munich and Garmisch on our way. Once we joined a group in Northern Italy instead but I got so sick all I remember of that trip is how the winding mountain roads do not mix well with nauseousness. And, also, check your plastic bags for holes before giving them to your kids to throw up in, mmm’kay?
There were lots of other trips as well. Our eighth grade trip was to Amsterdam and the surrounding countryside in the Netherlands. And I spent two spring breaks in Rio Del Mar, Spain with at least one side trip to Barcelona as I remember visiting when they were preparing the city for the 1992 Summer Olympics. Weirdly enough, my only experiences with France were making pit stops there on our way to Spain.
My father traveled to Scotland several times because, if he’s not skiing, he’s golfing and no golfer lives that close to St. Andrews and doesn’t make the trip to play the Old Course. However, those were boys only weekends so, despite the UK being the one place in Europe I’ve always wanted to visit, I never made it over the English Channel.
The thing about growing up in Germany – and make no mistake, it’ll always be as much my home as Maine or Florida – is that you don’t really comprehend the opportunities you’ve been given that so many other Americans aren’t. I took a lot of things for granted because it was all I had ever known. Looking back now, I wish we had done so much more or had taken more pictures of what we did do. It’s definitely taught me the value of taking the time to appreciate where you live. (Harder than you’d think when you live in one of the most popular vacation destinations in the world.)
Of course, the other thing is that you often forget what you did experience. Most children don’t put “gun” on their homework assignment to list metal things found on the playground. (Well, ok, maybe more children do than I think given the crime in some parts of our country these days.) Nor can they see Checkpoint Charlie at a museum and tell stories about how they used to pass through it on their way to go shopping in East Berlin. Or remember hanging out in the shadow of the Heidelberg Castle or watching snowfalls in the Alps, etc., etc.
I used to daydream about how great it’d be to grow up in one town. To have that friend you’ve known all your life, know everybody at the local store, and be able to just look around and see all the places where your life’s history has played out. But honestly? I can’t actually imagine myself happy in that life. When you’re constantly on the move all you want is to settle in one place but, once you’ve gotten used to moving around, it’s what you crave. I’ve lived in Orlando for 13 years now – The longest I’ve lived anywhere! – but, in those 13 years, I’ve moved six times. I think it’s safe to say… It’s in my blood.

Stef on 21 Jan 2010 at 7:04 pm #
Mannheim is actually considered The South
And now I am miffed, that you actually crossed Checkpoint Charlie … I didn’t travel to Berlin until 2002.
Well done, Rae.
kelseroo on 21 Jan 2010 at 11:33 pm #
What an exciting life, Rae! My family moved a lot when I was young also. I feel the same way- if I am in one place to long I start to feel like I am in a rut and I get bored. I think there are advantages to growing up in one town- you can have some long, lasting friendships that are closer than any other relationships in your life (or so I hear)- but I also think there are advantages to moving around. I feel like I’ve seen different kinds of people, different cultures, different ways of thinking. I feel like I am more well rounded and open than some of my friends who only know one way of life or one way of thinking. I think it would be great if a person could somehow experience both, and reach some sort of balance between the two.
One last thought- blog more often! I’ve been waiting to read some posts from you on this blog:-)
John Cabrera on 22 Jan 2010 at 1:16 am #
This post had a lot of surprises in it. Number one, I totally imagined that you were from a military family, so I found it really interesting that you were from a civilian family that worked with the military. I suppose it’s not entirely different, but for some reason it seems different to me.
Also, from the little I’ve heard you talk about your youth in Germany (memories and missing it, etc) I imagined these were looong distant memories from early childhood. But you lived in Germany for almost 13 years! You left Germany around the time I left Miami for college. So I guess now I’m sort of relating it to that, and thinking of you as German, actually. I suppose as much as I consider myself a Miamian.
It’s strange, but in fall of 2011 I’ll have lived away from Miami for longer than I lived in Miami. But I think those first 18 years will always seem like they were much longer than the rest of my life. Maybe it’s that as a kid you’re just doing a larger volume of little things or different things that the memories seem endless. As an adult we spend long periods of time working on one thing that it seems like “only yesterday that…”, you know.
Anyway, it’s really cool to be able to put your relationship to Germany into perspective. Did you speak much German when you were there? How is your German now?
Looking forward to reading what you have in store.
Rae on 22 Jan 2010 at 7:03 am #
@Stef: Ahh! I did not know that. I guess because I just tend to think of Munich and Garmisch as the South so Heidelberg felt more towards the middle of the country to me.
@kelseroo: Ha. I promise to blog more. I do! I just caught stuck on this one. Ask John, there was a completely different version of this post just yesterday morning. It took me a few days to write that one and then overnight I realized I didn’t like it and completely changed it. I promise not to take as long on the others.
I agree with you completely about there being advantages to both ways of life. And, in fact, a post I’m gonna try to get written today is gonna be about how I think maybe social networks may help with finding a balance between the two?
Rae on 22 Jan 2010 at 7:30 am #
@John: My dad was in the Navy earlier in life. Does that make us a military family? I mean, despite him being a civilian I’ve mostly considered us a military family. I grew up surrounded by military folk so it’s what I know. I feel comfortable in my current industry because of that background (lots of military contracts in simulation work). And my sister’s husband was Army and is now Coast Guard plus she’s worked for both… And my other brother-in-law used to be Army and even graduated from West Point (there’s a story here related to East Germany — if I ever cash in on that lunch ya “owe” me, make me tell ya about it) so it’s always felt like we’ve had a connection even if we weren’t technically military.
And I went to DoD schools. We lived in the German community because we didn’t qualify to live on base (though often in areas typically inhabited by at least one or two other American families) but the majority of my interactions happened on American occupied soil. It’s also amazing how many Germans spoke English at the time. I’d be curious to know if that’s still the case now that there’s significantly less of an American presence there.
For a long time I felt like someone without a country. Weird since it should have been the opposite. I should have been someone with two, right? But the States was just some magical place I just visited for two weeks every year where they had cool candy (ha! now it’s German candy I crave — candy you can’t get any day of the week is always sweeter) and EVERYONE spoke English. But I dreaded the move back here. I was sure I’d never adjust. How could I possibly fit in with people who had known each other their entire lives? Amusing when you know I was moving to Florida where the joke is always about how hard it is to find “native” Floridians. But I didn’t know that!
Rae on 22 Jan 2010 at 7:37 am #
Crap. Writing too much in my replies!
Anyway. I think I give the impression about Germany being a long distant memory because it often feels that way. Like it was another lifetime. I may have found myself surrounded by transplants in Florida but almost none of them had come from another country and, in some misguided attempt to fit in, I rarely talked about my time in Germany. So it soon became something I viewed from a distance myself, like I was standing outside my own body when remembering things.
(Wait, you left Miami for college around 1992? Why did I think I was just a year younger than you?)
Totally agree on how much longer those first years of our lives seem. Not only the number of different things we do but I think things less of an impression the older and more cynical (?) we get. I don’t like using cynical there. I really just mean the more we’ve adjusted to the idea that even as things change they really remain the same so we view new things and change from different eyes.
My usual response when anyone asks the German question? Ein bißchen. I suck at languages. I’m not sure why, just have trouble wrapping my head around them. Or should that be my vocal cords? I’ve always been better at comprehension and reading German than actually speaking it. And it’s really rusty these days. Too little use. I used to browse German websites just to try and keep myself aware of the language but I haven’t done that in a long time. Need to get back to it.
BabsiS on 22 Jan 2010 at 7:40 am #
Rae – thank you so much for posting this! It was so interesting to read. I didn’t know that you had actually lived in Germany for so long! Wow!
Are you planning to come back at some point – maybe for vacation?
You know, Nürnberg – which is were I live as you know – and its neighbour city Fürth used to be the home of many American soldiers until let’s say the mid 90s (Bavaria was part of the American occupation zone).
One area of Fürth was almost 100% American. They even had an American highschool there for the kids. What I remember is going to this great spare ribs and donut place with my ex-boyfriend, who was friends with many Americans. I was 14 and absolutely in love with the American English around me.
These places are all gone now. More and more soldiers left until they were all gone. The donut place has become a tattoo studio. The spare ribs restaurant has become some sort of disco. The highschool has turned into a German Realschule. And the barracks buildings have become modern apartment buildings.
I can’t wait to read Part 2 of your history
Rae on 22 Jan 2010 at 7:48 am #
BTW, uh, just wanted to clarify that the title of this post is just a play on the title of Mel Brooks’ History of the World Part I which itself was a reference to Sir Walter Raleigh’s book “The History of the World” — of which he only completed one volume before being beheaded.
Before I rewrote the post, I included a “coming soon” paragraph that made it clear I don’t actually plan to write a Part II. I mean, I guess I could but that part of my history is not nearly as interesting as the first part. But if there’s something specific any of you want to know about, feel free to ask…
Ed R on 22 Jan 2010 at 6:24 pm #
One must obey Babsis.
Jeannie on 22 Jan 2010 at 8:57 pm #
was this the tl;dr post you were tweeting about? SO. TOTALLY. WORTH IT.
Rae on 23 Jan 2010 at 7:57 am #
@Babsis: I’d love to come back. I haven’t made any plans to do that but I should. If nothing else it’d be nice to revisit all the places that stand out in my memory.
My sister actually dated someone who was stationed at Fürth while we were in Heidelberg. I think she also leaved near Nürnberg when she was back there working. (She works in youth development and was the manager of a center in that area for a couple years.) I’ll have to ask her the name of the town.
I’ve heard similar stories about the places I lived. A friend who was in Heidelberg long after I was watched all of the places we had gone to school, hung out, etc. slowly transform into different businesses over the years.
Rae on 23 Jan 2010 at 7:59 am #
@Jeannie: Haha, it is!! However, I was really talking about the original version of the post… which really was tl;dr. But thanks